Some people believe in soul mates. They believe that there’s a single person with whom one can a deep feeling of affinity, love and intimacy. This is why you’ll often hear people say that they “married the wrong person.” In fact, 30% of divorced women give this as one of their reasons for divorce.

Most marriage advice will tell you that this mentality is dangerous. Just because you don’t think you married your soul mate doesn’t mean that your partner can’t become your soul mate. In other words, it’s perfectly possible to turn your husband or wife into your soul mate. In fact, this should be every married couple’s goal.

Finishing each other’s sentences is seen as a universal sign of romantic love. However, there is a scientific explanation behind this phenomenon which also shows that this “skill” can be learned over time.

W hen people finish each other’s sentences, their hippocampus becomes more active. The brain activity observed is very similar to what happens when memories are being accessed or processed. This means that it’s less likely that you somehow magically knew what your spouse is going to say next and more likely that you made an informed guess based on your memory of similar interactions.

Therefore, as long as you keep spending quality time together and making memories together, you’ll be finishing each other’s sentences before you know it.

Being a team is another sign of being soul mates. People who are meant for each other have an “us against the world” mentality.

Contrary to what many people believe this is not something that just happens because you’re soul mates. It is a result of learning to trust each other fully to the point where you no longer question whether or not your husband or wife has your back. You’re also always willing to give your spouse the benefit of the doubt and assume the best about him or her.

Being a team is something that you work towards. For starters, you have to create healthy boundaries with friends and family because as long as you keep running to them with your problems, you’ll never be a team with your partner.

You also have to be clear about your vision and goals with regard to your marriage, finances, kids etc. It’s hard to be a team when you are headed in different directions.

The above marriage advice is meant to demonstrate that being soul mates does not come automatically. It’s something that you learn over time.